QUESTION: I have been dating for a little over 3 months. We both have been married before. We get along well and have many things in common. How long should we date before I ask her to marry me? My friends keep telling me to wait until she brings it up to me but I really like her.
ANSWER: "Dating is a process in which there is a beginning middle and end. The beginning can be seen as an introduction. During this process you share and gather information (likes, dislikes, pet peeves, etc.)
Be open with her about your strengths and weakness because this stage allows the two of you to determine what happens next.
If you haven’t already become physically intimate, hold off. Sex can cloud your judgment and cause you to ignore details that may be crucial later.
The next stage is the intimate stage (not physical). Can you trust them? Remember trust is not something that is given because you are attracted to them. Trust is like wages. Be willing to earn the trust of your partner as well as allowing them to earn your trust. Can you go out of town and trust them to handle your affairs in your absence? This phase is also considered the testing phase because many people find out later than sooner that the person they are is not reliable outside of sex.
Once you make it past these 2 stages, if marriage is still on the table you should have a better sense of who your partner is."